Dating in your thirties

27-Apr-2017 09:46

The number of single friends is dwindling, so there is also more pressure to be coupled up.

Dating is hard at any age, but even more so in your 30s. One of my girlfriends is 35, and she just married a 27-year old.

Women are complex and we come to different milestones in life from just about every angle imaginable, with different stories, different baggage and different goals. You eventually fall asleep because you remember that the guy you went on four dates with five years ago got married two years ago and his wife has been posting baby bump updates on Instagram for months now. The possibility of meeting and falling in love with someone who has serious emotional baggage becomes very real. You’re better at everything than you were in your 20s. That’s okay, as long as you can find your way back with the help of friends, family or a therapist.28. You have to decide for yourself how much time you’ll devote to work, your social life, your health and your relationships.

So, in an effort to sort through some of my own feelings about being 31 and single, and to offer an “I’m with you, sister! At this point we’ve lived a lot of life, and serious baggage from past relationships is unavoidable.12. You’re way better at the “I’m not feeling this so I’ll just have one drink and leave” first date. You consider circling back to the guys on Tinder who just said, “Hey.” What if he’s just shy? Chance meetings are romantic, but dating apps are practical. Not every single woman over the age of 30 is dying to have kids as soon as possible, either. Now is the time to take ownership of what you want in life and commit to getting it.29.

Far and away the best thing about being in my thirties is how sure I feel about myself.

I’m finally starting to get this whole career thing figured out; I know how to manage my strengths and weaknesses with friends and at work; and I have a pretty good idea what I want out of life.

Men who have waited to have kids or who had kids with their first wife but perhaps not as many as they would have liked, are looking for a fertile woman.

Plus, they have a great time together and neither of them could imagine a world without the other person in it.

You’re more interested in learning about each other. It just means you’re secure and comfortable in your relationship. You know he’s coming home to you and that’s all that matters. I’m not talking about sending a thousands texts a month. Love is far more meaningful now and you want to make your words more meaningful too. Not to mention, friends and family are pressuring you to make the big decisions such as kids and marriage. When you do open up, you give more of yourself than you did in the past. In your 20s, a romantic night might have meant going to the hottest new restaurant and dropping 0 per person on drinks and dinner. The thing is, you’re happier with yourself and your love life.

While it might seem calmer, there’s more passion and intimacy in a more mature love. You’re in your 30s and you know exactly what you want from a partner. You’re picky and are only going to date guys who meet your criteria. This means less crappy dates and a bigger chance of finding the right guy. Forget about stressing out if your guy doesn’t text back in 30 minutes or less. You still send a few texts, but you’re happier sitting down and talking about your day or spending hours on the phone if you’re apart. Somehow it seems okay to wait to move in together or get married when you’re in your 20s. In your 30s, a romantic night is sharing the remote while snuggling on the couch. When the two of you are together, you’re happy just relaxing. While some still try, most are more secure in love by this point. You’re not going to dump a guy you love simply because your family doesn’t like him.

Particularly, men were keen to point out the influx of single mums on the market.

“I don't want children & finding a woman in my age range without a kid or kids is only getting more & more difficult.

Plus, they have a great time together and neither of them could imagine a world without the other person in it.

You’re more interested in learning about each other. It just means you’re secure and comfortable in your relationship. You know he’s coming home to you and that’s all that matters. I’m not talking about sending a thousands texts a month. Love is far more meaningful now and you want to make your words more meaningful too. Not to mention, friends and family are pressuring you to make the big decisions such as kids and marriage. When you do open up, you give more of yourself than you did in the past. In your 20s, a romantic night might have meant going to the hottest new restaurant and dropping 0 per person on drinks and dinner. The thing is, you’re happier with yourself and your love life.

While it might seem calmer, there’s more passion and intimacy in a more mature love. You’re in your 30s and you know exactly what you want from a partner. You’re picky and are only going to date guys who meet your criteria. This means less crappy dates and a bigger chance of finding the right guy. Forget about stressing out if your guy doesn’t text back in 30 minutes or less. You still send a few texts, but you’re happier sitting down and talking about your day or spending hours on the phone if you’re apart. Somehow it seems okay to wait to move in together or get married when you’re in your 20s. In your 30s, a romantic night is sharing the remote while snuggling on the couch. When the two of you are together, you’re happy just relaxing. While some still try, most are more secure in love by this point. You’re not going to dump a guy you love simply because your family doesn’t like him.

Particularly, men were keen to point out the influx of single mums on the market.

“I don't want children & finding a woman in my age range without a kid or kids is only getting more & more difficult.

, I’m always a little shocked to realize that I’m the same age as Carrie and her friends.